The Dishonorable Way

What is honor? Do we really understand that there is heavy price you pay for dishonor? No, we don’t and I didn’t either! We are a very emotion driven generation. If we don’t like it; we don’t do it. Period. Our mind set says if respect is not given, YOU DON’T GET IT. However, we got it all wrong. The lack of honor is as common as getting the newest Jordan’s. We want respect and honor but we refuse to give it. I repeat there is a very heavy price to pay for dishonor that most of us can’t pay.

Now I’m not trying to be cliché but we are living hard lives because of a very simple principle we refuse to follow. HONOR YOUR MOTHER AND FATHER. Yes, I went there but only because I learned a very hard life-changing message from NOT. We all know this is the first commandment with promise and if you didn’t; you do now (You are now accountable). We have heard it all our lives and we do it up until a certain point. You know, we get a little independence, freedom, knowledge, and all of a sudden everything our parents say is stupid or holds no value. We become hard-headed, unteachable, and  feel like we have a right to be this way because they didn't do this or that.

Honor means high respect, esteem. This is what I THOUGHT I was doing but was far from it. I got to a point in my life where I felt like I didn’t need this principal to excel in life. I cut all ties with my parents. It was good for a minute; no accountability, wisdom or discipline. Just me doing me! But life had a plan and the plan was to destroy me. I thought everybody wanted to hold me back. I got warned by many but I did not listen. No, my parents are not perfect but I felt like they should be. I felt like they did not do what they were supposed to do and that gave me the reason to dishonor them. Where was my grace? When did I become perfect? Who gave me the authority to judge their shortcomings? We've got things confused; Honor is not based on a feeling, IT’S A COMMAND. You do it or reap the consequences! And God broke me down. I lost it all (this wasn't the only reason! My will can be very strong y'all but That's a blog for a different day) . Anyway, it was only after I returned to honor that he restored me.

Listen, there is a blessing in honor. My motto is the way you honor your parents is a pretty good representation of how you honor God. Our love for God should make this an easy principal to follow, however, we don’t even honor him. My youth pastor Ruth Montgomery, tells us all the time that if you do your part (Honor and Obey) God will do the rest but you must be found BLAMELESS. Allow the Holy Spirit to lead and direct you on how to honor your parent if things aren't the best between but whatever he tells you; MAKE SURE YOU DO IT! You do not get a pass to disobey. Honor brings about honor. Nobody will ever honor, respect, or even listen to us if we can’t do that to others. Believe it or not we will all be in a position where others look to us for leadership in some form or fashion, but we have to remember how we did others.

“He who lives without discipline dies without honor”.

It doesn’t matter how you were raised, what did or did not happen, or even if you just simply disagree. Your part is to Honor your mother and father. It’s a necessity, you need it! Don't be stuck, thinking you moving, cause you couldn't follow the commandment that automatically comes with a PROMISE!